“In an ideal world . . . ” is a phrase I’ve found myself saying quite a lot recently. It’s probably one of those phrases that gets bandied about a lot, and people don’t really stop to think about what they mean by it.
My recent usage is all about the process of change. We’ve been implementing a whole lot of change here in the European office and what “in an ideal world” means is generally “This is what it will look like/how it will work when this process is over,” with the added caveat that we’ll need to just get on with things for now. Probably a better phrase to use would be “All things being equal,” but “in an ideal world” is now stuck in my head. Of course, in an ideal world I’d be able to change my behaviour at the drop of a hat.
People’s views of an ideal world do of course vary by individual, by circumstance, by a whole range of factors, but a lot of the time their ideal world would be populated by people like them and nothing bad would ever happen. Well that sounds like one of the circles of hell to me, maybe a mezzanine circle that Dante decided didn’t cut the mustard.
Whilst there are many elements to my own idea of an ideal world, there are two that should be simple and don’t cost us anything.
Firstly, an individual’s sex, age, gender, ethnicity, abilities, and whatever other reason we find to discriminate on should be irrelevant.
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of Mark and other CPI employees talking about their unique connections to our community of caring.
Secondly, everyone would look out for those around them and at least think about offering help and support where possible.
I’d love to know what you do and what you have done to offer support.
Here are some inspiring thoughts from the Random Acts of Kindness Foundation
. Also here’s a great article about cultural competence
, or ways to help people feel validated and respected during crisis situations.
There’s plenty of evidence that the psychological and health benefits of being kind or nice to people can be huge, so if only for selfish reasons, go forth and commit a random act of kindness. And if you find yourself making a rash judgement about someone based on any external factors, stop yourself, get to know them, and find out for yourself. The person might be far more stellar than you expected.
for crisis intervention.