“I want to be a better me.”

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I am blessed to be able to travel and train for CPI, and to meet some amazing people from incredible organizations.

Over the last 15 years I may have had the opportunity to provide a CPI training with you.

I am often humbled when I read a course evaluation that suggests that the course content or something I did or said inspired an Instructor to be more prepared for or passionate about their own trainings, or their daily caregiving.

Very often on my flights home after the trainings, I think about the work each of you do, and how inspiring that is to me.

You all change lives. You make both little and big differences with those you train and support.

After a recent training at Boys Town in Omaha, I reflected on the differences that are made there for troubled and troubling youth, each and every day.

During the pre-test at our Nonviolent Crisis Intervention® trainings, we now ask a question related to core values, to inspire thinking well beyond the stated organizational philosophy, mission, and purpose.

I often use this question to introduce CPI’s underpinning philosophy of providing for the maximum Care, Welfare, Safety, and Security℠ to all stakeholders. I always try to stretch the thinking of those in my courses to consider how to make this statement more than a mantra, or a phrase on a poster, T-shirt, or magnet. I regularly press learners to consider, “What does, or what can this look like, sound like, or feel like at your organization?”

I further challenge learners to talk about how these values and beliefs can translate into actions—not just once in a while, but 24/7/365.

While at Boys Town I was encouraged to have lunch at the Boys Town Visitor’s Center. On Fridays they often have a Boys Town Citizenship ceremony.

On the Friday I was there, seven young people were inteviewed and challenged by the priest running the ceremony, in front of staff and family members who were able to attend. They were each asked what their goals were and what they were working on.

These seven young people had been at Boys Town for anywhere from just three days to a few months. I was nearly brought to tears by what these young men and women shared about Boys Town, and the care they receive.

They spoke eloquently to what Boys Town looks like, sounds like, and feels like to them.

One youth said, “I need to stay sober so I can do better in school.”

A second youth said, “I’m working on just saying OK when adults ask me to do something, without comments.”

And lastly, one young lady told the group, “I want to be a better me.”

If you are ever in Omaha, stop by the Boys Town Visitor’s Center. If it’s a Friday, maybe you will be as fortunate as I was to attend a Citizenship Ceremony. You will hear what Care, Welfare, Safety, and Secuity℠ looks like and sounds like to the young people at Boys Town.
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“Our aim is to help you always consider the entire realm of options available to you during any crisis moment. And to help you always choose the least restrictive intervention possible.”