Are You Secretly Enabling Your Students?

By Becky Benishek | Posted on 06.24.2015 | 0 comments
My friend Kelly is a teacher in a public school system. As the final bell rang, she reflected upon her past school year. I am happy to share her thoughts here with her permission.

At the end of the year I am always reminded that there is a big difference between compassion and enabling in education.

Educators need to take a serious look at whether they want a child to truly be successful, or if they want a child to see them as their savior.

Every year I experience the damage caused by educators that need to feel loved, wanted, and as if they are a student’s only source of help. That is codependency.

The hard work is getting a child to stand on their own, after repeated failures. If you can do that, you have truly helped them.

And they will never think it was you who did it, and that’s okay! Because they will believe in their own selves and strengths, and they actually may forget about you and not realize what you have done.

That is the hard stuff—getting them to that point, and stepping out of the way to do it.

And that’s why the greatest statement I have ever received as a teacher is, “You made it okay to be myself.” That is all I could ever dream of helping someone to do. What else could I ever ask to help someone achieve?

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What comes to mind when you look back on the past school year?

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