11-year-old Sarah has been ostracized by her peers. She’s sidelined, excluded, called names to her face, and laughed at behind her back. She receives emails telling her she’s worthless. There’s an entire Facebook page dedicated to discussions about her weight.
College freshman Jessica was sexually assaulted at a party, and now rumors are flying that she’s “loose.” Guys send her provocative, threatening texts and harass her in person, touching her leg, making unnerving comments about her body, and following her around campus.
Ray has the highest numbers on his sales team. But he’s repeatedly left out of meetings, excluded from employee lunches, sent links to degrading articles about his race, and constantly called out by his boss for not working hard enough.
What do you do when you see someone suffer from bullying—at any age, in any situation?
“See it, Call it, Stop it,” says CPI’s Raquelle Solon.
When you See It, ask yourself, “Is this behavior persistent and ongoing with the intent to control, manipulate, or cause harm?”
If it is, and you feel safe doing so, Call It by calmly telling the aggressor that their behavior is unwelcome and unwanted. That the person who’s being targeted has the right to feel safe and respected at all times.
“If you don’t feel it’s safe to speak up directly,” Raquelle writes, “obtain support through your student services office, counseling services, security, EAP, HR, etc. Having an unbiased outside party for support is never a bad choice.”
Raquelle also recommends keeping a log, because documenting instances helps you identify patterns and risks and gives you information you might need to take further action.
To learn more and get tips to Stop It, read Raquelle’s Security
magazine article, How Bullying Impacts the Risk of Violence in Your Enterprise
. She also discusses characteristics of school and workplace bullying, how the why
behind bullies’ behaviors can vary by age, and how stopping bullying starts with each of us.
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