Setting limits is one of the most powerful tools that professionals have to promote positive behavior change for their clients, students, residents, and patients. Knowing there are limits on their behavior helps the individuals in your care feel safe. It also helps them learn to make appropriate choices.
When you’re setting limits, it’s important to keep three things in mind:
Setting a limit is not the same as issuing an ultimatum.
Limits are not threats. (“If you don’t attend group, your weekend privileges will be suspended
.”) Limits offer choices with consequences. (“If you attend group and follow the other steps in your plan, you’ll be able to attend all of the special activities this weekend. If you don’t attend group, then you’ll have to stay behind. It’s your decision
The purpose of limits is to teach, not to punish.
Through limits, people begin to understand that their actions, positive or negative, result in predictable consequences. By giving such choices and consequences, you can provide a structure for good decision making.
Setting limits is more about listening than talking.
Taking the time to really listen to those in your care will help you better understand their thoughts and feelings. By listening, you will learn more about what’s important to them, and that will help you set more meaningful limits.
More resources on limit setting
How to Set Limits
Grab this free guide for preventive, verbal, and nonverbal ways to set limits. You’ll also learn CPI’s 5-Step Approach to Setting Limits.
Effective Limit Setting Video-on-Demand
Setting limits is one of the cornerstones of CPI's Nonviolent Crisis Intervention®
training and can be a very helpful technique for managing confrontational behavior. Watch this video-on-demand program and you’ll learn:
How to Avoid Power Struggles
- How to know when it’s time to set a limit.
- The difference between setting a limit and issuing an ultimatum.
- Why it's important to be a good listener.
- Myths and realities of human behavior and communication.
- How to get better at setting limits and avoiding power struggles.
Do you ever get pulled into power struggles? Tune in to this presentation and learn how to change a situation from difficult and negative to positive and productive.